RE: Text Anything Dating Questions. Answers from Tara

After you get out of a relationship, can you be friends again?

I think it all depends on the break up and the people involved. I think that it is very possible to remain friends as long as things were left on a fairly good note. It might take some time but it is easier once both sides have moved on. It also takes effort since there is a past there.

What are good reasons to date in high school when your probably are not going to get married?

This is a tricky question. Many times when you date people in high school you regret it when you get older. But you do learn a lot of things, both good and bad, when dating other people about yourself and how relationships work. One thing I would see as a positive is learning how to consider and care others before yourself. This is usually easily learned in a relationship since there is a lot of give and take that happens. Truthfully you do not need to have a dating relationship to learn those things, but it is one way.

If you dated a girl for half a year and she dumped you for your best friend what do you do?

I am not sure that there is much you can do. It is obviously not a pleasant situation but sometimes you have to deal with things that are not pleasant. You should be honest with your best friend on how it makes you feel so that there is not pent up hostility towards them that they are unaware of. If you tell them that you are ok with it then they are going to assume that you are ok with it. If he is really your friend he will take your feelings into consideration.

What do you do if your friends think that you act differently around a certain girl that you like, but you feel like you dont?

There are a number of things that can be happening here. Your friend could be seeing something you do not. You could be acting differently around her but not realize it because of how you feel around her. Your friend could also just think that you act differently around her because he thinks you like her.

So are you saying its impossible to break up with someone without hurting them?

I think that there is going to be some hurt in a breakup because feelings and emotions are involved. It also depends on how long the relationship was and how much they were involved emotionally. Knowing this, when breaking up with someone you need to take their feelings into consideration and try to be sensitive during the whole thing.

Is it ok to kiss?

It really depends on the people involved. If you both are ok with kissing in that it will not lead to a place where you will regret then I think it is ok to kiss. Kissing can lead to other things, but it does not have to. If you know that you are not strong enough to resist other temptations that can come from kissing, then I would abstain from it.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend becomes way too dependent on you what do you do?

You need to set up certain boundaries when this happens. Make sure that you both have friends that you can hang out with other than each other. Set aside time where you will not be with each other. You both need to have time for yourself, if you don't then this is how dependence forms. Encourage them to hang out with their friends or family on a regular basis.

What is your favorite thing to do together?

Tim and I are very low key. We love to just spend quality time together watching movies, doing puzzels and going for walks.

How did u solve a fight?

You have to be open and host with one another. You also have to take the other person's side into consideration. Listen to them and how they feel (hopefully they will do the same in return). If you really talk it through then you will eventually work through it. Never ignore a problem. This just builds up

What if the person you want to date is either way older or way younger than you?

It is a bit relative for this question. It depends on the maturity level of both people. There could be a person who is way younger than you who fits your maturity level. From someone who has dated younger people in the past, this is not usually the case. When the age difference is too big you come to the problem where you both are in two different places in life and it becomes unrelated. However, this can happen with people the same age as well.

For the girls, What is one word that describes your boyfriends?

Inspiring.

How long have you been a Christian?

I have been a Christian for about 12 years.

What will happen if you don't have boundaries?

Not having boundaries will lead you to places that your regret and are not ready to handle physically and especially emotionally.

Has God sent a message or interfered with your relationship? What if God says he/she is not the one for you but you really think he/she is?

You should always listen to God when it comes to your relationships. He knows better than we ever will. You may think they are the one but God may have something different in mind. His ways are always better than ours will ever be. God did say that Tim and I needed to be on a break about a year ago. We listened and I believe that it was beneficial even for the short time that we were apart.